It is man’s basic right that when love knocks on his doors he should open the doors – it does not matter who has come as a lover, whether he is your old partner or a new guest. Love should be sovereign in human life, not bogus marriages.
You create one unnecessary thing, make people suffer, and then finally after suffering for years they want to be separated. And have you seen the fact that if you want to get married you can just go to the marriage registrar’s office and be married, but if you want to be separated the society, the law, the government, everybody tries to create problems for you.
Marriage is their invention, and divorce is the response of the rebellious spirit in man. And the man who has no rebellious spirit has no spirit at all. Corpses can go on in love permanently, for the simple reason that they cannot go back to the registrar’s office for a divorce.
It is good that Kahlil Gibran says that if a husband brings his wife to judgment, she is an unfaithful wife, that it would not be right to listen to only one party. Why is she unfaithful? Because the love is no more – and the husband has freedom to move in society, have new contacts with women, or even go to the prostitutes. But the woman is confined in the house, which once was a home. When love was a guest, it was a home; now it is again just a dead house.
And it is natural that when love disappears there are quarrels, constant naggings, constant problems. You had chosen the wife or the husband to live a peaceful, joyful life together. You are certainly living together but without any joy, without any peace, without any love.
Prostitution is a by-product of marriage. All the religions preach marriage and all the religions condemn prostitution, and nobody sees the connection. Why are there prostitutes? Love cannot be purchased, only lust can be purchased – but something is better than nothing.
Marriage is not a natural phenomenon. It is artificial, arbitrary. And when it disappears you cannot do anything to bring it back. You can pretend, but that pretension makes you a hypocrite. And your pretension cannot deceive the woman, because she has known your love and pretension cannot become a substitute. The only way is to separate, in friendship, because you have given each other so much.
But rather than separating in friendship, people separate as enemies, fighting the case in the court, proving the fact that they don’t love each other anymore. Love is something invisible, but the court wants something objective, evidence. The woman has to prove that the man is going to other women, or that the man is impotent.
The woman is hurting the man, the same man she has loved. We are forcing her to hurt the man. And the man is hurting the woman – saying that she is unfaithful, she has been with other people, or she is barren. But these are only excuses.