Modern psychological surveys say that each man thinks about sex at least once every three minutes. And this is about the irreligious, remember. What to say about the religious? He must think about sex every three seconds! Women think about sex once every seven minutes. That is a gap between man and woman.
That’s why women can pretend more that they are far higher, that they are not concerned, that this whole ugliness of sex is man’s creation. They are superior beings. But the difference is only of four minutes. The man has to go on persuading them “Four minutes more,” that’s all.
Hence the man has to go into a kind of foreplay. Before he can persuade a woman to be normal, to be healthy, at least four minutes’ foreplay is needed. And because man is the aggressive sex, because man’s energies are aggressive energies, and the woman is a receptive sex, that too makes a great difference. Man has to take the initiative. The woman can pretend: “I am not running after you.”
Mulla Nasruddin and his wife were arguing, and Mulla said, “It must have been the most unfortunate moment in my life when I married you.”
The woman said, “But I was not running after you.”
Mulla said, “That is true. No mousetrap ever runs out after the mouse. The mousetrap simply waits. The mouse comes itself.”
That is true: mouse or Mulla Nasruddin, it makes no difference. Because women are receptive, they are a little cold. Man is hot. And because women are the receptive sex they are not much interested in pornography, because the most aggressive part in man’s or woman’s body is the eye.
There is a difference between man’s and woman’s eye. Of course, not a physiological difference but something very deep and psychological. Man’s eye is aggressive, woman’s eye is receptive. Hence the woman is not very interested in pornography.
Moreover, man’s sex has something of extroversion in it and woman’s sex has something of introversion in it. Whenever you are making love to a woman she will close her eyes, because when you are making love to a woman she is not much interested in you. She is much interested in what is happening inside her. She closes her eyes. She enjoys the feeling that you trigger into her innermost being.
But man is more interested in looking what is happening to the woman. He wants to keep the lights on. Not only that, there are a few really religious people who keep automatic cameras in their bedrooms to take pictures so that later on also they can enjoy what was happening. Man is more interested in seeing what is happening to the woman, less interested in his own inner feelings.
Kiss a woman and she closes her eyes, because she wants to taste the kiss in her interiority. She wants to absorb it. And man wants to see what is happening to the woman. His interest is other-directed. Hence man has always remained interested in pornography.