All Buddhist methods are good, tremendously good, and they have nothing to do with religion. They are simply scientific. You need not call them Buddhist, you need not call them anything – they are simple methods. Buddhism is not a religion, it is just a psychology. It is not like Christianity, it is not like Hinduism. It is pure science – and pure science belongs to nobody.
So you can continue to work with the man, and soon you may become the bridge for him to come to me! Now close your eyes(.
Our relationship has changed since we’ve come here. I don’t feel like making love so often.
(Her boyfriend) And I’m feeling attracted to other women.
Try making love just once a week, but have such a total experience that you both are completely satisfied.
When you make love, make it really wild so that it is not just a local release, but your whole being throbs with it. You have to scream and jump so that it becomes a meditation. When you make love, the whole world should know! Then it will satisfy you so completely that for one week you won’t think about it. That mind goes on looking at other women because you are not satisfied.
In the East we have been inquiring into the sexual energy; the West is only inquiring on the periphery. We have come to see that it is not a question of this woman or that; it is a question of female and male energy. If they can meet, really meet, there is such an orgasmic experience that the ego disperses for a few minutes and you are not there. You have disappeared and the whole universe dies with you. Your nature has exploded, all civilization gone. You are wild animals – innocent, vibrant, possessed.
But this is only possible, it can only be a deep orgasmic happening, if you are celibate – then you gather the accumulated energy. It becomes a reservoir and then you explode. Otherwise, if you make love an everyday habit, it becomes just like taking tea or smoking a cigarette – nothing much. Then it is no more than a release, just like a sneeze. So don’t make sex a sneeze, otherwise you will miss the whole mystery of it.
So decide the day that you will make love, and make that day sacred and a day of deep meditation. Once a week – let it be Sunday, the religious day. And let it be a very sacred phenomenon. Prepare that day from the very morning. Be as loving to each other, as careful, as possible; no conflict and no anger – because that distracts the energy.
The whole day you are to feel that the moment is coming when you are to make love. You have waited for six days, and now meditatively, move into it.