Rather than condemning it, rather than calling it names, giving it labels, watch it – without any conclusion. See what it is. See as deeply as possible, with great friendliness towards it, with intimacy. It is your obsession, your wound; it says something about you, it is part of your biography. It has arisen in you, just as flowers arise in trees. It is essential because it says something about your past. Go deeply into it, with care, with love, and you will be surprised: the more care you show about it, the less it hurts, the less it dominates, the less it forces itself upon you.
Yes, in a certain way, enjoy it! But by enjoying I don’t mean become identified with it. If you become identified with it you go insane. If you condemn it, if you repress it, you go insane. Avoid both extremes. Keep yourself exactly in the middle, neither condemning nor identifying. Just be a pure witness.
And slowly, slowly it will be healed. Slowly, slowly it will lose all its poison. Slowly, slowly you will see it changing into a positive energy rather than a negative force. It will become helpful. Each obsession is a knot in your being. Once it is opened, great energy is released.
And everybody is carrying obsessions; our whole society is obsessive. A few obsessions are accepted by the people; then you don’t call them obsessions. If they are not accepted, then they become obsessions. In one society one thing is thought to be obsessive, in another society it is not obsessive. It may be even respected, may be thought saintly, holy.
For a Jaina monk, to take a bath is an obsession. People who are taking baths every day once or twice are obsessive; they are too concerned about their bodies, body-oriented. The Jaina monk condemns them. The Jaina monk does not take a bath. Jaina monks used to come to see me. It was really a difficult time for me because they stink! But they think they are doing great austerity.
They don’t clean their teeth either – that too is an obsession. Morning, evening and before you go to bed… And a few people will clean their teeth after each meal, so four, five, six times a day. This is obsession! You are madly concerned about your teeth. And all the arguments that you can give are pointless to the Jaina monks because they will say, “Look at the animals. Without any cleansing, without any toothpaste, without any toothbrush, their teeth are absolutely clean. Nature takes care, there is no need to worry about it. You are obsessed.”
According to them, you are too concerned about your body odor, about your breath, about your teeth. And this is materialism, and they are spiritual people! But except a Jaina, nobody will think that these are obsessive things.
Remember one thing: obsessions differ from society to society, from country to country, from religion to religion. What really is obsession? Anything that becomes a dominating force upon you, that dominates you, that becomes master of your being. Anything that reduces you to a slave, that’s my definition of an obsession.
Watch it, meditate. Be silently with it, because that is how you will become master again. Silence makes you a master of everything. Don’t fight, and don’t become identified. If you become identified you are mad. If you fight you are mad from the other extreme.