It is not coincidental that the religions call God “the father.” These are the ideas of psychologically sick people. Christians call their priests “father.” These religions which call God “father” and religions which call their priests “father” – rather than helping you to come out of your pathology, your sickness – help you to be more sick, to be more pathological. Their whole business depends on your sickness.
You should have at least asked me whether I was willing to be your father. That very day I would have tried to persuade you to change your direction. Life is enough unto itself. One does not live for somebody else. Even if you love somebody else, you love because of yourself, because you feel joyous. The other is only an excuse. If you enjoy friendship, it is your enjoyment; the friends are only helping you to fulfill your own longing.
Then life has a health, and only the healthy person, the psychologically healthy person, can discover his spiritual being. The sick person cannot move, he is so much involved with his pathological desires – which are going to remain unfulfilled, which are going to remain like wounds. Otherwise, the death of your father would have helped you immensely to become aware not to depend on anyone else again.
But you did not use your intelligence at all. It was your dependence on your father that created the sadness, the misery. Now the father is gone; the first step of any intelligent person should be that this should not be allowed to happen again. One has to learn to be alone.
That does not mean that you have to cut yourself off from friends, from family, from people, from society – no. The art of living alone does not mean renouncing the world; the art of being alone simply means that you are not dependent on anybody else. You enjoy people, you love people, you share everything with people, but you are capable of being alone, and yet blissful. That is the path of meditation.
Accidentally you arrived here, and you committed the same mistake again: you replaced your dead father with me. You started looking at me as if I am your father. But I am nobody’s father…I am not even married!
It is very strange that God, who is not even married, is called “father;” priests, who are not even married, who don’t have any children, are called “father.” But they are called “father” because some day or other, everybody is going to miss his father; then they will be the replacement. They are substitute fathers, but they are also mortal, so they can die any day. Even the pope can pop off at any moment. So the religions have created an eternal father – at least God will remain with you always; and all the religions define God as everywhere present – omnipresent; all powerful – omnipotent; all knowing – omniscient.
I have heard about a nun who used to take her bath in a closed bathroom with her clothes on. The other nuns became aware that this seemed to be some kind of insanity. They asked the nun, “What is the matter? Why don’t you take your clothes off and take a good shower?”