If it happens looking into my eyes that your desire to escape disappears, that means you have found the key. You need such a presence, you need such people, you need such eyes around you. You yourself need such eyes, with the same depth, with the same clarity, with the same insight – and you will find yourself at home.
And nobody escapes from the home. Everybody is escaping for the home, because everybody has been placed somewhere else. Nobody has taken care of your inner needs. Your parents, your society, have taken care of your outer needs…and they cannot be condemned, because nobody has taken care of their inner needs. Inwardly they are empty.
Perhaps they cannot escape so easily because there are so many bonds. The wife is there, the children are there, the job is there.
That’s why every younger generation is the one which is receptive to new ideas, to new experiences, to new spaces – because they are still not in a bondage. They can escape from things, in search of the home. And in this thirty years the phenomenon has become very prominent, for the simple reason that in the past the younger generation never existed.
You will be surprised to know this: that the younger generation is a very contemporary phenomenon. In the old countries like India, where eighty percent of people live in villages and have no contact with the contemporary world, it is still the same: there is no generation gap, because there is no younger generation to create the gap.
Things move in such a way that by the time a child is six, he starts working with his father – small things that he can do. If the father is a farmer, he goes to the farm, he takes his food to the farm – small things – he takes the cows from the farm to the house…whatever he can do. He has not yet become a young man; he is a child, and he has taken a quantum leap – he has taken responsibilities. The time between six years to twenty-five years is missed by him.
By the time he is twelve he has almost learned the trade, the job. His father may be a goldsmith, and he is learning the secrets of it. He may be a gardener, and he is learning the secrets of it.
When the time to feel free to escape comes, he is already in bondage. Perhaps he is married: he has his own children, his own job, his own responsibilities. He cannot become a hippie – by the age of twenty he will be having his own children. He cannot go to Kabul, to Kulu Manali, to Kathmandu, to Pune, to Goa. He cannot escape anywhere. The whole route every young person has to travel, he cannot – he has too many responsibilities. He has to follow his father, step by step, because his father is not only his father but his teacher too. He is teaching him his profession.