Imperfection is not a derogatory word, it is almost synonymous with a living flow. Complete, where will you be going? What will you be doing? “Complete” means growth has stopped, you have come to your very end. All that was potential has become actual – that’s what completion means. Now there is nothing else but to die.
Imperfection means there is much still awaiting, much is going to happen. I am not saying strive for it to happen, I am saying it happens if you accept your imperfection, and you live it in totality. These are two different things. To believe that your imperfection is perfect is utterly wrong. But be total in each moment – when you are imperfect be totally imperfect. And then out of that totality you start growing.
And I am not saying that you will ever become perfect, because the day you become perfect you are no more needed – the perfect ones are discarded immediately. So life never becomes perfect; it goes on moving. From one totality to another totality, from one imperfection to another imperfection, it goes on, it goes on. Imperfection is simply life, aliveness, growth, evolution. So why go on condemning imperfection? Now you think you have got the feeling that “I am perfect as I am right now”. You are not. But I am not saying strive for perfection; that is again the same trap. I am saying wherever you are, live this moment totally – this is the only way it can be lived.
If you are sad, live it totally. Be really sad. And if you are really sad, you will come out of it sooner. If you are not really sad, halfheartedly you are in it, it will persist longer.
It happens, somebody has died. You loved the man or the woman; a lover is no more there. Then he sad, then be really sad. You owe this much to him. Cry and weep; go crazy. Don’t be lukewarm, don’t be just so-so. And don’t try to console yourself that now it is useless. If you try to console, the sadness will spread over a longer period – it can continue for years. That’s how millions of people have become sad. Because they have never lived their sadness, they have been postponing it. When you postpone it, it remains in your unconscious, waiting for the right moment to assert again. It becomes a heavy weight on your heart.
When it is there. pour it. It’s perfectly okay to be sad. There is nothing wrong in it, it’s how it should be. If you are really sad. Soon you will find the sadness has dissipated, evaporated. You have gone through it, it is finished. Whatsoever the sadness was going to give to you, it has given to you; now there is no need to remain around you. It will go away. And you will come out fresher, younger, more alive. And you will come happier out of it, more experienced, more mature.
A man who has not seen somebody beloved dying has yet to see something, is not really mature. In the East we have a saying: “You are not mature until you have seen your father die. You are still a child.” When you see your father die, something deep dies in you too. Because the father is your life, the mother is your life, they have given you life. And those who have given life to you are disappearing into death – sooner or later your death is also going to come.