If a girl is trying to climb a tree we stop her immediately: “This is not right; this is against feminine grace.” And if a girl tries and persists and is rebellious she is called a tomboy, she is not respected. We start creating these ugly divisions. Girls would enjoy climbing trees; it is such a beautiful experience. And what is wrong in playing with dolls? A boy can carry dolls, because in life he will have to meet dolls and then he will be at a loss – what to do?
This whole phenomenon has nothing to do with you personally. It is a social disease spread all over the world.
Two English gentlemen of the old school were discussing old acquaintances one evening in their London club. “What,” asked one, “ever became of old Cholmondeley?”
“Why, didn’t you hear? Cholmondeley went to Africa on a game hunt, and, by Jove, the chap took up with an ape!”
“An ape? Is the old boy queer?”
“Heavens, no! It was a female.”
If it is a female, even though an ape, it is perfectly okay.
We create these conditionings so deeply that out of so much conditioning sometimes people start revolting against them. Sex should be taken very naturally – we have been taking it very seriously. Either we condemn it as ugly, animalistic, or we raise it to something divine, but we never accept it as human and we never accept it as fun. Basically it is fun, it is a good sport. And humanity is going to remain burdened with ugly nonsense if we don’t accept its beauty as a sport. It is good physical activity too, and the best of exercises.
You can ask the heart specialists. Now they say sexual activity prevents heart attacks. One thing is certain, that no man has ever had a heart attack while making love. In every other kind of activity heart attacks have happened, but never making love. Have you ever heard that anybody had a heart attack making love and died? No, never. It is a natural physical activity, and fun, a good sport.
If you take it non-seriously, then there is no need to be worried even if you are attracted to women. Don’t be worried – because your worry is not going to help. It’s perfectly okay. In a really free world which is unconditioned by the primitive, ignorant past, in a really enlightened world, we will accept all these things. Yes, once in a while you may love a woman or a man. Nothing is wrong in it, because inside you both are there. Each man is both a man and a woman, and each woman is both a woman and a man, because you are born out of the meeting of one man and one woman. So half of you comes from your father and half of you comes from your mother; part of you is man and part of you is woman.
So there is nothing much to be worried about. It may be that your man part is attracted towards other women, but because biologically you are a woman you feel afraid. No need to be afraid – take things easily, that is my basic approach. Take it easy. And by taking things easy one can go beyond them more comfortably, conveniently, quickly, than by taking things seriously. If you take them seriously you become entangled with them, you become burdened with them.