For example, Krishnamurti. He is enlightened; if anybody has ever been enlightened, he is enlightened. But the complexity is such, and he has reduced the whole thing to such a simple formula, that the mystery is missing. He looks like a logician, he talks like a rationalist – the mystery is lost. He has been repeating particular formulas and they have not helped anybody. Many are deluded through them but nobody is helped – because he has a very fixed attitude, and life is not fixed. It is true: sometimes a man achieves the truth without the help of any master. The opposite is also true: sometimes a man achieves the truth through the help of many masters, not only one. It is true that you can grow alone; the opposite is also true, that you can grow in a community, in a school, in a family of seekers. It is true that a man can reach to the final without any method; the opposite is also true.
With people who have a very logical attitude about life this becomes difficult. They divide life into yes and no. They say, “Either say yes or say no.”
You may have heard the name of a Western thinker, de Bono. He has something very beautiful to say to everybody. He has coined a new word – that word is ‘po’; you will not find it in any dictionary because it is a new word. He says that there are situations when if you say yes you will be wrong, and if you say no you will be wrong again. There are situations when you need to be just in the middle – then say po. It is a word which doesn’t mean yes, doesn’t mean no, or it means both. Either below yes or no, or above yes or no, but undivided – po; yes plus no.
There are situations: if somebody asks a certain question in which you are deeply involved, if somebody asks, “Do you think that you love me?” it will be difficult because you are never a hundred percent certain whether you love or not. If you say yes you are committed to a wrong statement, because who can say yes? Only one who is total can say yes with his total being behind it. How can you say yes? The moment when you are saying yes, a part of you is still saying no. Wait, don’t decide. There is confusion; a part of your mind is saying, “I don’t know whether I love or not.” If you say no, that will also be wrong – because a part of you is saying yes. And you are always part, you are not total. De Bono’s word po is handy: when somebody asks you again, “Do you love me?” say, “Po.” It means yes and no both: “A certain part of me loves you, and a certain part doesn’t love.”
Mulla Nasruddin was in court. There was a case against him, because the wife had reported to the court that he had been beating her. If the judge had asked, “Do you beat your wife?” he could have said yes, or he could have said no, whatsoever the case may have been. But the judge asked, “Mulla Nasruddin, have you stopped beating your wife?” If he says yes, that means he was beating her before. If he says no, it means he is still beating her.
So he came running to me after telling the judge, “Give me a little time; tomorrow I will answer.”
When he came to me I said, “You say po.”
And he said, “What is this po?”
I said, “That is the judge’s problem. Let him decide what po is. You simply say it.”