You have fallen in love: it is beautiful in the beginning because it has not been given to the robot yet. You are learning. You are alive, aware, alert, and love has a beauty. But sooner or later the robot will take it over. You will become a husband or a wife, and you will have given the charge to the robot.
Then you will say to your wife, “I love you,” but you will not be saying it. The robot will be saying it, the gramophone record. Then it is a recorded thing. You just play it again and again, and your wife will understand it – because whenever your robot says, “I love you,” it means nothing. And when your wife says, “I love you,” you too will know it is nothing, because a sentence given by a gramophone record only creates noise. It makes no sense; there is no sense in it.
Then you will want to do everything, yet you are not doing it. Then love becomes a burden and one even wants to escape from love. All your feelings, all your relationships are now directed by the robot. That is why sometimes you insist on not doing a certain thing, but the robot insists that you do it because the robot is trained to do it. And you are always a failure and the robot always succeeds.
You say, “I am not going to be angry again,” but your saying it is meaningless because the robot is trained. And the training has been long, so just a sentence in the mind that “I am not going to be angry again,” will not have any effect. This robot has been long trained. So next time when someone insults you, your decision not to be angry will be of no help. The robot will take charge immediately and the robot will do whatsoever it is trained to do. And then in the end, when the robot has done it, you will repent.
But the difficulty, the deep difficulty is this, that even this repentance is done by the robot, because you have always done that – after the anger you have repented. The robot has learned that trick also; it will repent, and again you will do the same thing.
That is why many times you feel that you have done something, said something, behaved in a certain way, in spite of yourself. What does this expression, “in spite of yourself,” mean? It means that there is another self within you which can act, which can do something in spite of you. Who is that self? The robot!
What to do? Do not take vows that “I will not be angry again.” They are self-defeating; they will not lead you anywhere. Rather, on the contrary, whatsoever you are doing, do it consciously. Take charge from the robot – with any ordinary thing. When eating, eat consciously. Do not do it mechanically, as you have done every day. When smoking, smoke consciously. Do not allow your hand to move to the packet unconsciously, do not bring the cigarette out unconsciously. Be conscious, alert – and there is a difference.