I am in difficulty in the relationship with my girlfriend and I wonder whether to continue it or not.
Don’t be in a hurry, because what happens is that the mind has light moments and dark moments, day moments and night moments. When it is a day moment everything feels very good; you can see everything clearly.
When night comes everything become dark and you cannot see anything clearly.
Just think: we are sitting here, it is light, you can see me and you can see everybody here, you can see the trees – and then suddenly the electricity goes off. Now you cannot see anybody here; the trees and everything are gone. Will you say that now the trees no more exist and the people no longer exist? If you say that, that will be too early a decision. Can’t you remember that there was a light a few moments ago and people were there and the trees were green and everything was there and things were clear?
There is a third state also, the transcendental.
When you have seen both the day and the night again and again and again, then you know that something is higher than both. You, your witnessing capacity, is higher than both.
So there are three kinds of decisions. The first kind is a negative kind which makes life a desert. Then nothing blooms – it is a frustration, it is hell! The second kind of decision is the “yes” decision, the daytime decision – life becomes a joy, a celebration. There is delight and one feels very happy to be: this is what heaven is, paradise. And the third is neither light nor darkness – one simply decides out of one’s witnessing; out of all of the experiences of day and night together, one decides. That is the ultimate decision, that is what makes a man enlightened. So just wait, watch, see, and let the daytime come, mm? then decide.